damn,

i would say slow down and don't read into everything so much. i've been with my girl for like 3.5 years and she wants to get married and all that. i'm 27. we hardly 'do it' anymore and it's me that doesn't feel like it. i find myself wanting other girls all the time. don't want to break her heart tho.

my last girl had a lot of skeletons too. they used to bother the crap out of me. i used to get worked up over them but honestly every/any girl is going to have some things that are gonna bother ya. my girl now has a tattoo. it used to piss me off but i've gotten better at not sweating it. who knows, if we broke up, my next girl might have a worse tattoo.

try to give her a little space. it's weird but girls respond to that really well.

if it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be and there are Plenty of other ladies out there!

 

Shay, You are way better off figuring this stuff out right now before marriage. A very good friend of mine is going through a divorce right now because his wife wanted to be less serious and go out and see the world. They have two kids and she stuck him with most of the bills including the house while she has lived with 2 different guys within the last year. You can't smother her and if she loves you like you think step it back a notch and see. Things will work out. And if you're too angry then you might want to do a little wrestling with this dude....I see a family resemblance.

Dave

 

We'll you asked and I don't know you but I'd tell ya to take an anger management course, deal with your issues and grow up a bit. If you lose this one you'll loose others too if you don't straighten up. If you don't like what I say then talk to a counciler and see what they say.

 

We'll you asked and I don't you you but I'd tell ya to take an anger management course, deal with your issues and grow up a bit. If you lose this one you'll loose others too if you don't straighten up. If you don't like what I say then talk to a counciler and see what they say.

Yeah, you are right. I think I have it under control now however.

 

My advice is just get a "new one".

Girls come and go.

Leave this one and upgrade to a hotter one.

I have heard my advice is not the best, but you never know.


This is what I have done time and time again.

I also had a girl I thought was my everything, we worked at "HomeBase".

I was heart broken over her for years.

I kept dating other girls, but thinking of her, what a waste of time.

Now I have a woman that I truly love.

I know I love her, because of all my "experience".

P.S. Forget all the bullying stuff, your girl didn't bully you.
That is a separate problem that you should probably see someone about.
It shouldn't affect your relationships.

 

dude she needs space my ex said that right before we broke found out she was seeing her boss so **** her **** them all heartbroken still but im getting over it.

 

Here's my advice on women and relationships after 19 years of marriage. WOMEN ARE ALL NUTS! Why do you think guys like busting their knuckles wrenching in the garage? It gets us away from the screwballs. Do whatever she wants and just live with it. It'll be good practice for marriage.

Disclaimer: No offense to any females reading this, I was wrong and didn't mean a word of what I said. I'm a man, and that makes me say wrong things, we need you to tell us what to say and I ain't got one here blabbing in my ear this very minute correcting me.

 

X2 :thumbsup:

 

Since you asked, and you desire a direct answer here it is, straight up, no dilution.

Consider yourself LUCKY you are going through this BEFORE you're married.

You and her both need to concentrate on bettering yourselves before you even THINK of consumating your relationship with her, or somebody else. You eveidently have some work to do, just like most everyone else. You are not alone, you are NOT screwed up and you are merely a human, just like everyone else on this planet. We all need to grow and we all need to learn.

As hard as it is, LET HER GO to do what she needs to do. You go and do what you need to do. It's very far from the end of the world, trust me! It's a temporary phase you are both going through, but it's clear that you must each take your own path to become what you will.

Let the future bring what it will. As long as you try and be the best person you can be when you get up every morning, everything is going to work out.

 

Shoot.... like, how many times was the 'girl the one, the only one for me'? I don't have enough fingers or toes to count.... finally I met the right one and celebrated our 32nd year of marriage in Feb...

There are other gals out there....

 

I watched several folks follow their penis...dont do that!
And I have watched it cause divorses ...then new marriages then it happens all over again. Then I watch some of these folks never smile
again...pure depression is about all that will get somebody.
And dont think you can change a person, because that just is not going to happen! I have 5 sisters and have watched them ruin perfectly good men and it sure is ugly. Move on

 

Yenko Boy. If you love her, let her go. If she comes back, it was meant to be. If she doesn't, remember it's best to have loved and lost than to not loved at all. Get yourself to some anger management classes. Every woman has skeletons, baggage, issues, etc. Time (age) allows you to deal with this more maturely. You're young, she's young. Don't just deal with your past (and hers), learn from it. You have to learn to trust yourself as well as others. Also, work on your self esteem. Wow, that was the hardest tune-up I ever had to perform. Good luck and remember... the ocean is full of fish.:thumbsup:

 

Get a Dog. They are easier to live with.
Mike

 

oh so tempting for the sick comments...l

Plus one on the "if she cheated once she'll do it again". I had to live with that nightmare that before I learned.......(not yours, there are several others available... FYI )

 

How is sleeping with one of your friends before you got together a skeleton in her closet? It's just something you're going to have to realize is never going to change and you just need to get over it.

 

I'm with Steve on this one, cept for the Apology part.

 

What about me?

 

I would watch the comments like that. They will get zapped for being off topic.

 

Pot Meet Kettle.

 

they say theres plenty of fish in the sea but that doesnt mean you always catch a fish everyday remember that. you can quote me on that.

 

Keep it simple.... you are dead meat. The issue is not you or your temper. Do NOT beat yourself up over it. Move on with pride as she obviously has a need to do other things so let her go and move on. Life can be a bitch but you sure don't want to end up with one. Live your life and be happy and do not forget the things you don't like about her. Good Luck

 

I would think that working/living together is causing the problem. In the evening there is nothing new or fresh for either one of you. It is just the same ole , same ole. I have been married 31 years and my wife and have spent most every minute together, working side by side for 25 of those. It is almost impossible to make that work and takes two very special people.

Your remarks lead me to believe you two have gotten bored with each other, especially her. Not sure there is much you can do about it as it does not appear to be anything happening to freshen up the relationship. I would say you need some time apart but it may become longer than you want.

 

this thread is absolutely meaningless without pictures...

love the iron sheik photo though...he's a riot on the howard stern show, just as he was in his heyday.

maybe you can hire him up to propose?

 

Take this from someone 57 years old. You are in a situation that will not work out long term. Sorry to say that, but it is the truth. You need to take the relationship for what it can be, casual, kind of serious or not at all. You can't make a good long term relationship unless both people want to do what the partner wants and is happy seeing them happy. As long as you think in terms of "I" and "she", with no "we" you are headed for disaster.

That said, I have never known a man yet to actually take advice from another man about his love life. I don't expect you will be any different. Just think, by the time you are 50-60 years old, you will have figured out what it takes to really be in a loving situation with a woman long term. By then the lust goes way down and you can actually see the real important things!

Oh yeah, get some anger management for your own good.

 

I hate to tell you this But, You need to back off and give her some space. Go out with your buddies, work on your car, what ever. Just leave her alone for a while. If she wants to be with you she won't wander off to far. You can't smother her or she will just push you away. You can't force the relationship.

 

you need to let her go-the damage is done, and you will always throw things in her face when the going gets rough-let her go, and you need to change, grow up or whatever
she needs space, time to grow also, she will always regret not having that time
some guys have trouble finding women, and when they do find one, even if its not a good fit, they have trouble letting go, they fear they may not find one again for a while
work place romance is tough

 

You're 25 and you're making a woman your whole life? Quit it!

You know what you'll realize when you're 30? That you were dumb when you were 25. Sadly, when you're 35, you realize you were dumb when you were 30 too!:yes: Life is a learning experience.

It sounds like she's already done with you, and waiting for a better option to come along. She's not going to be by herself.

If it was me, I would treat her sweet as sugar and act as disinterested as heck. Don't mention marriage, kids or even your future together. In fact, start planning a trip. A trip by yourself. Maybe a city tour up the east coast. Get all into it. Start developing a life that doesn't include her, but not in a mean way. Go to a movie by yourself. Get out and have some fun!

With regard to your anger issues. Cut that out! Nobody looks dumber than when they are all pissed off, tearing up their own stuff (I never could figure that out) just because they're mad. You are in control of that and you can stop it. I always think about my grandma. She's been gone for more than 20 years, but I know she's in heaven watching me. You've got someone watching you too so cut that out!

You sound like a guy who's got his stuff together. Don't build your life around a girlfriend. You'll end up disapointed and you'll smother her. Now, once you find a wife, all that changes. Good luck, and keep us posted.

 

You know what you'll realize when you're 30? That you were dumb when you were 25. Sadly, when you're 35, you realize you were dumb when you were 30 too!:yes: Life is a learning experience.

Holy * this is it right here!

Best thing I did was not marrying the girl I was with at 20 or 25 or 28.

And we don't argue until I start playing 20 questions. It just doesn't feel like a "bad" relationship.

There's part of your problem right there. This is annoying if no matter who you are. Insecurity isn't very flattering.

Sounds like you 2 just weren't meant for each other, personally. Unless you look like the hunchback of notre dame, the bright side is you are only 25 and there are lots of huntin' left to be done.

 

I married my best friend and lover 39 years ago, she is still my best friend and lover!

Best friends don't have very many issues, think about it, if you were not happy with a friend, you would drop them, same goes for the gal you are going to marry. Life is too short, so choose the right one! :yes:

 

cut her loose. its so cliche, but its true. if she wants you, she'll be back. act disinterested. be distant. dont be mean or spiteful...just be about yourself. the things she is saying...whether true or not, she's still saying them. honor her wishes. be a gentleman. you are still fairly young...feel lucky the knot is not tied already, and there's no kids involved yet.

about your temper...fix it. i saw that you claimed that you have it under control. i'm calling BS. (out of personal experience)
look at your temper like a motor that might have a problem. you've done a few things to fix it, and it revs up fine in the garage, but go out to the street and put a load on it...then watch if that gasket blows.

see someone about your temper. it wont go away by pretending. tell your girl you are doing it, too.

hey, if she wants out, its better to know now than later, and if all you get out of it was a good ride and your temper fixed, then you're a lot better off than loads of guys out there.

 

Shes a goner from the things she is saying, usually one is lined up before they go .Dont take it personally or try to figure it out, its just the way they are man. Even they dont know why they do the things they do and most never figure out what they really want.
At 25 the last thing you need is to be in a serious relationship, go play for about 10 more years, then throw it all away