spare the rod, screw the kid up for life. There is a hell of a difference between spanking and whipping a child.
I wrote a lengthy reply and then reconsidered. this is one of the issues that can be argued till the cows come home and is frankly not worth the fight. I have a brother and sister in law that are the "time out types." I wouldn't trade my three kids for theirs any day, any way, any how. I wish more couples would teach their kids discipline, it would make my job so much easier. Get your hands on a book titled "the me generation." interesting research and if the young people I have to deal with 5 days a week are any indication, the author hits the nail on the head.
agreed on the difference between whipping and spanking.
too many people think "discipline" is "spanking / time outs" when discipline is more of teaching patience and guiding them
How about a semi loud NO and a tap
spanking an 11 month old, I dont know man
I give my 2 year old daughter (just turned 2 last friday) a firm "NO" and she is about in tears, she'll them run over and hug me for all she's worth..... i then try to explain why its "no"..... "its hot" or "it'll break" or "150 proof isn't for babies, you use the 80 proof"..... you know, like a good parent should
We found that It was hard to know at 11 months if what he did was an accident or on purpose. They are very un-coordinated at 11 months because they are still learning to use all of their muscles properly. We just used a stern NO and the time out thing if they did it a second time. You have to show him who's in control. Talk to them and let them know what they did wrong. If you don't it will be tougher when they are 2-3 years old and try to walk all over you.
yup, they're not really trying to get into trouble I don't think..... they still don't know
what's acceptable or not...... and they do tend to get uncoordinated even when they're not up on the 80 proof :yes:
Don't humiliate then, even young kids can feel embarrassed and humiliated..... take them aside or to another room where there is some privacy even if you don't use spanking as a form of punishment but rather use a stern talking or time out approach
I've been blessed, really, with my daughter. She doesn't try to play with stuff on the shelf or countertops. She has, for the most part, an even temper and even when she doesn't get her way or what she wants, she more or less accepts that fact and will move on to other things that she can have..... I think the best thing is having another adult around though. If my wife has had a bad day, I can take care of Selina while my wife goes to unwind and vice versa....... I always try to keep in mind, "am i upset because of what Selina's doing, or am I upset already and the little things are annoying me more now than if I weren't upset"
getting back to the subject at hand, I think a 1 time "pop" would be acceptable in the 20-24 month and up (I did this to my nephews..... take them by the hand, cup your hand, gentle swing to the butt, ONE TIME ONLY, and when it connects, the cupped hand actually makes more noise.... i didn't do it very hard so it was the pressure through the diaper's and pull ups rather than the feeling of a spanking that they felt)