I typically just use oil, unless I have a new bolt set that has the lube with it. I was just surprised that with the lube, the bolts came to a distinct holt at the rated torque values, rather than progressively pulling tight. I think the underlying issue is, the lube takes the guesswork out of whether you actually got to the point of bolt stretch or not. When I used to do this regularly (long time ago) , it got to be second nature that I could almost torque down a main without a torque wrench and be darn close. Like anything else, you loose your feel for it.