[Aaron]

Opinions please

Co-worker has women in his community smiling at him that gives him the impression of ahhhhhhh..... teddy bear feeling. They smile when he makes eye contact with them.

This guy is a good guy. He does not date alot. He does everything correctly. Just a real nice guy.

He feels these women are playing with him. He likes some of them, but is cautious of there behavior. He feels the smiles are phony. He has had some really bad things happen to him in his life

Is this the classic goodguy smile he is getting? Are these women toying with his emotions? Are they giving him the impression they are interested and really are not because of his "goodguy" reputation?

Is their reaction, a smile, just one of respect?

He is worried about getting to close to asking these women out and then in turn getting hurt and rejected.

 

[Guest]

This you??

I learned a long time ago, NOT to dip my wick in the Office Pool!!

But I did ONCE!!

The only way to do this is to marry the intended one in the end.

And I shoulda married her!!!!!!!!

pdq67

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[1BLACKHARLEY]

look, i'm sorry bad things happen to this guy, but think about it, almost every relationship ends badly ecxept the one that doesn't. i'd tell him to go for it, a lunch date or two and he'll know who these people are, and he can decide which to keep, and which to throw back.

it might be he gets attached to quickly and doesn't know the difference between dating and a relationship. gretzky said, you miss 100% of the oppritunities you don't take. by the way, i've known some of the nicest guys in the world, who had no idea how to act around women.

remember the cartoon years ago, where goofy was a nice guy till he got in the car to drive. i'm not saying your friend is a maniac, he might be different around women than he is around you, that could be aggressive, it could be shy, could be self deprecating.

tell him to load up his schedule, have some fun, and learn to walk when neccessary.

 

[Professor_SS]

watch this BS. next thing you know they'll be complaining that he made some improper comment or action. then he'll be unemployed. never ever trust any woman at work, for any reason no matter what. Loosing the job is not worth the fun of the flirt even if it is all harmless.

 

[jt4rd]

It NEVER hurts to ask someone out, get to know them. The worst that happened to me was a girl said, "Sorry i'm kinda particular about the people i date". I said "Oh, well as you can see I am not". Anyway tell him to go for it.

 

[Aaron]

Interesting comments.

Paul, no this is not me. Interesting comment on the wick.

Professor_SS, I agree with the thing at work. I personally have experienced how women can be very wicked in the work place. This is advice I gave him. However, these are women in the community. Not where he works. However, work travels fast around this community.

Learn to walk??? I believe part of the reasons he is a good guy is his religious views do not match that of others.

Life is tough for him.

 

[grandsport]

Happens to me alot be it driving my car or walking my dog. Probably more so when walking my dog.:thumbsup:

 

[cv67]

Even if they are interested (sounds like it) tell him to leave them alone.
Some go out of their way to hook someone into a harassment suit just so they can quit work.

Other than that hes a grown man and has to take a chance. If he gets turned down so what, theres always another.

Tell him to work on his confidence and esteem

 

[Aaron]

Happens to me alot be it driving my car or walking my dog. Probably more so when walking my dog.:thumbsup:

Gary, you must be a "good guy." It seems most car guys are!!

 

[cessnarob]

watch this BS. next thing you know they'll be complaining that he made some improper comment or action. then he'll be unemployed. never ever trust any woman at work, for any reason no matter what. Loosing the job is not worth the fun of the flirt even if it is all harmless.

100% Seen it too many times!!!!!!!!!

 

[Aaron]

100% Seen it too many times!!!!!!!!!

Seems like this happens alot today.

 

[grandsport]

Gary, you must be a "good guy." It seems most car guys are!!

Thanks ,Aaron I like to think so. But seriously, to my wifes dismay I can strike up a conversation easier with a woman than a guy.I think it might have something to do with running with my wife and her 2 friends all of the time.

 

[Guest]

Nowadays, there's too fine a line at work between "striking up" and "hitting on"!!

And if you cross that line, you will be hauled in front of HR in a NYM and hopefully only a letter will be put in your folder!

Way embarrassing by me and jobs are too hard to get!!

pdq67

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[forcd ind]

i have noticed women smile at me a lot more than in the past, but i figured it was because im older now and they figure im harmless, lol-a smile is a smile, a women will let you know if she is interested, but you gotta talk to them
i think the smile is kind of a reflex action, but sometimes i will follow it up with a happy
"how are ya doing", then dont linger, that way they dont feel like your hittin on them
if this is a guy who has some religious concerns he might be best off looking around his church for someone with his views
some women like a little bit of "rebel" in their man-of course, todays women has more power than in the past, the need for a man isnt as demanding as it used to be

 

[SixActual]

Tell your friend to tell all those women he's gay.

 

[Mstehle]

"'tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" I got burned on several relationships and was leary about getting back in the dating pool then a trusted advisor quoted this line to me. He was right.

A few months later I was talking to a smooookin hot girl that I has started to get to know a little and she was introducing me to two of her equally hot friends as a "really nice guy", one of them that's okay as long as you undertsand that "Nice guys finish last" . Never did date any one of those hotties but that's okay. I waited and found a great one.

I advise your buddy to go for it, and start with the hottest one. if he's going to get shot down he might as well got shot down by the best looking one.

 

[ls427ss]

Tell him to ask her "do you know the difference between a Big Mac and a BJ" when she says no, tell him to say "ya wanna go to lunch?" lol

 

[Aaron]

Thanks for the replies. We touched on many of these topics. I just wanted to see if we hit on some of them or if someone might have a different take.

I feel for this guy. It is not a very good situtation.

Thanks again

 

[Aaron]

"'tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" I got burned on several relationships and was leary about getting back in the dating pool then a trusted advisor quoted this line to me. He was right.

A few months later I was talking to a smooookin hot girl that I has started to get to know a little and she was introducing me to two of her equally hot friends as a "really nice guy", one of them that's okay as long as you undertsand that "Nice guys finish last" . Never did date any one of those hotties but that's okay. I waited and found a great one.

I advise your buddy to go for it, and start with the hottest one. if he's going to get shot down he might as well got shot down by the best looking one.

This is exactly the same situtation he has been in.

I can't figure why hot women just do not want anything to do with "Nice guys."

 

[Terry krook]

Tell your friend to tell all those women he's gay.

Then they will all want convert him. Wait. Maybe that could be a good thing

Just kidding. I agree with the professor. I have seen where something that was perfectly innocent turn out very embarassing for one fellow.