[flink69SS]

Am I the only dad of a 16 year that doesn't know when to shut the hell up... I tell him "If you say 1 more word I will ....". So what does he do??? Yep, one more word. All I know is if I would have talked to my dad back in the day, he would have sent me to next week with one swift one...:yes: I guess back when we didn't have all these electronics crap there wasn't much for your parents to take away so a quick ass whipping always seemed to be the end result. Is it time to open up a can of whoop ass???
Talk to me....

 

[cody]

kick his ass, he'll thank you for it later

 

[Sid Coleman]

Most definitely-still needs to know who's boss.

 

[Aaron]

Amen!

 

[bradford]

i heard once that you can get in trouble for smacking your child. but if you have a sister or brother do it it's o.k. all i know is it won't be long for me and i'll have the same issue.

 

[-SS454-]

Yeah beat the kid, good solution. If you didnt enforce a certain (non-abusive) level of physical punishment before, its not a good idea to kick the hell out of him now. The problem is if he's talking back to you, he may likely talk back to the wrong people that wont be so patient and really do a number on him, and you should make him realize that.

I believe he keeps doing it, because he keeps getting a reaction. "If you say another word, i'll do this and that", so he does it cause he knows he's gotten you fired up, and he's seen no consequences. So you have to impliment a balance of keeping yourself calm so his goal of firing you up becomes boring to him, and when he does start on you, the consequences are real.

You could start with a computer if he's into that, simply say you will lose the computer till you smarten up, and when he tests you, go in and shut it down, and take all the chords. Tell him if he steals the chords or gets new ones, you'll cut them up.

Adding some physical to things, a way that could likely get through is you slam him against the wall and hold him there, without ever losing your cool. You tell him in a calm, firm tone, that the only reason you've been this leniant on him so far is because he's your son, and he's at an age where if he keeps the attitude up, most other people wont be so nice. And tell him he's getting at the age where he can head out on his own, whether he likes it or not. Tell him he can work with you and get him set up and on his feet for the real world, or he can push you away and get thrown out with nothing but a shirt on his back. Then just walk away.

 

[Surfcat64]

Kick his A$$, then tell him if he reports you for child abuse and you go to jail, when you get out, he is going to spend twice the amount of time recovering in the hospital.
It worked for me with my step-children. Only had to smack on of them, but he was very deserving, knew it and heeded my warning. Haven't had any trouble since.
It all boils down to one thing kids don't have these days. R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

 

[SebJr]

There's no ass whoopin's like the one's I used to get from my Dad, but I'll tell you right now , they only came after I pushed to far. My youngest son (13 )..... I'm pretty sure is never playing a video game, riding his atv, or using his computer the rest of his life. It doesn't really work to well , at least with him, he doesn't like it, but he moves on. I gave my oldest (16) a swift punch in the arm ONCE , and I'll never hit him again:noway: , the look on his face and the feeling I got was enough to know ,it was not the way for us.
He was going through a phase where he would retalliate physically towards his younger brother, now don't get me wrong, the little one asks for it, but three years age diff is to much physical difference.My older one was warned...." you don't want someone older beatin on you do you"? Well one day it went to far and I lost it, things were very uncomfortable in the house the next 12 hours or so and I had a sick feeling I could not get over.
The next morning we got up and I made both of them come to a swap meet with me, as we got out of the truck, I apologized and explained how I didn't want that ever to happen again and that it would take all of us to make that happen. A couple tears were shed and we were all three the better from it.
Think real hard before you do it! You can not take it back!!

 

[-SS454-]

Kick his A$$, then tell him if he reports you for child abuse and you go to jail, when you get out, he is going to spend twice the amount of time recovering in the hospital.
It worked for me with my step-children. Only had to smack on of them, but he was very deserving, knew it and heeded my warning. Haven't had any trouble since.
It all boils down to one thing kids don't have these days. R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

Did you really just suggest he beats his kid, then threatens the kid of an even more severe beating to keep himself out of jail? And that you practice this sort of technique on your step children?

Maybe you feel good and tough for beating on a 16 yr old kid thats half your size. I'm amazed at some of the responses. Apparently most of you were beaten by your dad, and so now you think its great to beat your own kid. You talk about respect, and theres a ton of posts about new generation being messed up, look in the freakin mirror man. If you got beat as a kid, maybe you were disrespectful? Its people that suggest beating the hell out of their kids is such a great idea, is the reason why spanking is now so frowned upon. Way to go!

Maybe my idea of an a$$ kicking is a lot different than yours. I know for one, I would never want to smash my kids face and put him in the hospital. If you think thats a good way to teach respect, DONT HAVE KIDS!

 

[DZAUTO]

Many of you know our "baby", Zac, he's 21 and still living at home.
When he was 18 he bucked up to Dad. I hammered him about 4-5 times with my fists. End of discussion.
Well, a few days ago, he got REAL, REAL stupid (we won't go into that). I lost it and hammered him about 10-12 times! Mom had a fit!!!!!!!!!!!!
Zac told Mom that he deserved it and that Dad was right. Again, end of discussion. :thumbsup:
Soooooooooooooooo, you got my blessing for an a$$ whuppin'. As mentioned, they will appreciate it later in life. My Dad busted me twice in my younger years and today, I wish he had done it a few more times through the years! My dad WAS NOT mean, but he was firm and a man of his word, which we need more of today.

 

[1BLACKHARLEY]

start unplugging and stop paying for his electronics, then if he gives you crap, take the door off his room, take the curtains off his windows. he needs to know freedom is not a right, but a privilage earned. you tell him, "i love you to death", "but until you start showing some respect, this is how it's going to be". always make sure he knows you love him, but you set the rules he has to abide by till he's on his own....

start by taking eveything, t.v. privilages, going out privilages etc. as he comes around he gets stuff back (earned), if he takes a step back, repo something till he gets it together. this isn't my plan, it's a plan of many specialists that deal with problem children.

think about it, if he can't deal with you, how is he going to deal with an employer. they need to know who's in charge, and if they can't deal, they need to move on, wether that means your home or a job....

remember, people are where they are in life for a reason, and they need to know there are consiquences to thier actions (cause & effect), you f-up and this is the penality. this is why most kids and adults can't deal these days, "what do you mean i'm fired? i was only late 300 times." "what do you mean i have to go to jail? my parents didn't love (discipline) me."

if your boy, wants to be treated as a man, he needs to act accordingly. being a man, doesn't mean you get to do what you want with no recourse, it means you have responsability, to family, employer, society, etc. and when you step out of those bounds, there are penalities....

kids expect everything from thier parents these days, electronics, cars, freedom, we give them all the stuff we feel we were shorted when growing up, but the reality is, your kid has friends, he needs parents, and that your concerned with his behavior, is a good start. now family members and such are going to give you a hard time, but this is when you have to sack up. you want your son to be the man you know he is capable of ? or another of those whinny wanna be gangstas, who blame thier actions on everybody but themselves? it's you decision....

 

[PaPa Johns 77]

Not spanking kids as needed along with the everybody is a winner thing has spawned a ME generation that thinks they can say and do anything they feel like with no concequinces(sp) and can't accept or understand criticism or failure! You know, "if it feels good or makes YOU happy" just do it crowd!:sad:

 

[ChevyGirl66]

What would you do if it were your 16 y/o daughter?
I've never talked back to my parents, it was just something that shouldn't happen. We were never grounded, never had things taken away. I think you both gotta calm down and talk about the issue...no raised voices.

-Rosie

 

[DZAUTO]

What would you do if it were your 16 y/o daughter?
-Rosie

OK, that's a good one. A REAL GOOD ONE!!!!!!!!
I tried to get some things across to my daughter (the oldest of 5 kids and the only girl) and I made the mistake (as we ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL see it now) of treating her like a GIRL instead of like a child. Well, she pretty much screwed up her life doing things her way.
Now that she is 43 she REALLY, REALLY, REALLY regrets doing the things she has done and not listening to her Dad. Well, its all tooooooooooooooooo late now, and she's having to live with the consequences-------------------------including her 3 boys. Do I regret not being a hard core parent with a girl today? Yep, and so does she. No, I agree, you can't hit a girl right square between the running lights like you can a boy (and I've been tough on the boys----------------and still am), but you sure can bust their fanny and make their life miserable if that's the game they wish to play! And if you don't, both of you WILL pay for not doing it later down the road.

 

[jocww]

smack her across the face and send her to the streets bwahhahahaha o god i hope i never have a daughter

 

[ChevyGirl66]

but you sure can bust their fanny and make their life miserable if that's the game they wish to play! And if you don't, both of you WILL pay for not doing it later down the road.

at 16?? There is an age where the "spanking" should stop, and that doesn't mean transform to beating.

I was disciplined as a child (<7/8 y/o) as were my sisters. My dad was always strict/stern with us. Never beaten, and again never had stuff taken away or grounded...we're probably the only ones in the majority of our family and friends that are all headed to college (3 of 4 us in college, one about to go into high school), and not dropping out of school because we're pregnant.

 

[Johnny O]

Kick his A$$, then tell him if he reports you for child abuse and you go to jail, when you get out, he is going to spend twice the amount of time recovering in the hospital.
It worked for me with my step-children. Only had to smack on of them, but he was very deserving, knew it and heeded my warning. Haven't had any trouble since.
It all boils down to one thing kids don't have these days. R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

This response, along with a few others here, are almost hard to believe. Im thinking either a few of you are joking in a sick way, cause if you're not, it's very disturbing. I really believe lots of people just should not have kids:sad: :sad:

 

[SebJr]

the way this thread is going :sad: , it won't be around long.

 

[Freddy Mercado]

It might be too late for you. I think that discipline has to start at an early age.

 

[Professor_SS]

you could try a time out. Better yet, send him over to JohnnyO's to live.