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post #1 of 33 (permalink) Old Aug 15th, 19, 4:23 PM Thread Starter
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Where have manners and respect gone?

I had to attend a funeral today. The wife of a good friend of mine died in a motorcycle accident last Friday, all quite sad and tragic. I attended the visitation last night and the funeral today. She touched LOTS of lives so the funeral procession of cars from the church to the cemetery was really long. The funeral escort cars did a great job of blocking traffic along the 50 block stretch we had to drive between the church and the cemetery. The lines of blocked cars backed up quite a ways. Sorry! Her name was Debbie and she was a great person in every measure.

I saw at least three different vehicles slide into the funeral procession line, turn on their headlights and flashers, and then slide out of the line when they got to where they wanted to turn off. The procession was probably over 100 cars long so I suspect it happened a lot up and down the line. How can people be that self involved that they can't have a little respect and just wait for the procession to pass and then get on their way? To slide into line and back out is the lowest form of self indulgence while equally showing absolutely no respect for what the procession is representing.

And if I see you not taking off your hat when the National Anthem plays, don't be surprised if I bitch-slap the back of your head to help you take it off. Heck, I'm old fashioned enough that I still expect people to take off their hats when they enter a building, not that anybody (except myself maybe) does that anymore. We've become sloppy and ill mannered as a society and I for one am sick of it.

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Re: Where have manners and respect gone?

Its lack of respect for each other. It's not taught by parents much anymore. Everyone is "special" and it's all about them.. when it should be about "us".

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I remember an old movie by the name of "The Wrong Box". It was some kind of heist in horse and buggy days, and the booty was hidden in a coffin. Anyway during the get-away scene they passed in a horse-drawn hearse through the village center where a band was playing for a crowd of young and old. As soon as the band conductor saw the hearse he brought the music down from jovial to funeral pyre. People all stood up and took off their hats. Of course it played out again the same way when the hearse scorched by after the bank heist. You had to see it...
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post #4 of 33 (permalink) Old Aug 15th, 19, 7:48 PM
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Its lack of respect for each other. It's not taught by parents much anymore. Everyone is "special" and it's all about them.. when it should be about "us".

Good post.
Sadly Ron, you EXACTLY correct in most cases! As always, there are a few who "get it right" and you know it comes from their "home life". As a society it seems that being lazy about such stuff is OK and I'm sure that is not so, at least when I was growing up and when I was raising my kids. Manners matter!
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I was surprised recently driving on a two lane road in a funeral procession from the funeral home to the cemetery and almost every vehicle we met pulled over a stopped until we got by.
I told my wife you don't see that happen very much anymore.
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Rich I hate to say this but I can top your story.

My wife's brother and mother were killed in a car accident.

The funeral procession from the church to the cemetery was down a 2 lane highway for about 4 miles then about 5 miles on country roads,

He was a farmer and member of the volunteer fire dept. board of directors.

There were some of his farm tractors and fire trucks in the front of the procession.

We were part of the way to the cemetery ready to turn the corner on one of the rural roads when a delivery truck from DHL came from the opposite direction but instead of stopping and waiting went on by causing everyone in the procession to get over to let the fool past.

I swore if I would ever meet the driver I would kick his ass.

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post #7 of 33 (permalink) Old Aug 15th, 19, 10:25 PM
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Re: Where have manners and respect gone?

Rich I agree with you on funeral etiquette. People just are not taught manners as they should be.

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And if I see you not taking off your hat when the National Anthem plays, don't be surprised if I bitch-slap the back of your head to help you take it off.
This is one that also gets me steamed.
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The rise and prominence of Pop culture have done much to promote decay and distention in our culture. The love of money has fostered a value and race for "who can be the most outrageous, the most vulgar, thereby generating more clicks and more revenue. IE: Miley Cyrus, Michael Jackson, Kapernick, Madonna, Kathy Griffin and yes even Trump makes ready with some of the same techniques. Some have always placed more value in celebrity status, I could simply not care less. Mourning over a celeb is like mourning a marketing strategy.

Manners have always been part of our "individual personal values". I recognize, value and try to acknowledge good manners. Those that employ them stand out to me and deserve my respect. Several members here on this board have heard this directly from me. Why? Because its a dying value in our society. A trait becoming quit rare.
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It sucks and I bitch about drivers all the time, and my wife says I should of been a police officer. People think its all about themselves. They dont have to stop at a STOP sign. They dont have to stop on a right on red. Just look and keep on going. Or they park at the gas pumps at a Sheetz, all the while you think that they are pre paying only to see them come out, 10 minutes later as you wait, with a bag of food! And what really pisses me off is when you are coming to a construction area and know well ahead of time that theres a single lane ahead, some morons think that they dont have to take their turn waiting, and drive right up to the merge point and think they can just squeeze in. Ill block those losers off all the time if I can.
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I remember as a kid, around 10 years old, we had an empty lot where we played baseball in the summer. Just a bunch of neighborhood guys that got together every day to play. That lot was next to the highway going out to the cemetery on the edge of town. Funeral processions came by many times while we were playing. One day, one of the Dads came over to us and said we should stop playing while the procession went by. Of course as kids, we didn't know any better until then. After that, we stopped playing and just stood quietly, facing the road with our baseball caps off, any time a procession went by. Every time.

We were even mentioned in the local newspaper for the respect we showed.

To this day, I've never forgotten that, and always pull over when we meet a funeral procession, no matter where it is.
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Wife's grandma passed away right before Easter. Most people wouldn't pull over or get out of the way. It made the cops job harder trying to get from street to street to stop traffic. I try my best to pull over or get off the road any time I see a funeral line on the road.

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The traditional family has disintegrated. Who is teaching children manners anymore? Not enough people.
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The traditional family has disintegrated. Who is teaching children manners anymore? Not enough people.
Maybe it is he same guys who knock peoples hats off, reap what you sow.

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