Well, I've been seeing my girlfriend for almost two years now. After a few months after we started being a 'couple', she moved to San Antonio to finish school. We hardly have time to visit eachother and she strongly wants to continue our relationship. She loves me, but I don't have that feeling for her yet. She's a nurse, no kids, never been married and talks about wanting to marry me. I comment to her sometimes how hard it is having this long distance relationship. We got into a bad discussion when I told her that I want to build a street/strip car. She threw the typical comments at me. Now..theres this other girl I work work that I really like. I don't know what it is about her, but I'm crazy for her. The BIG but is, she has two kids, from the same father and the relationship isn't working between them. They've never been married, but have been together for 10 years.:o

*sigh* Ok, I feel better getting this off my chest. Everyone have a good day.:)

Run Forrest Run

Is she hot?

Another "Skirt Chasing" instead of Bench Racing thread! ;) :D

Well it's obvious you don't share the same feelings about girl #1. So you need to let her know where you stand. And girl #2 may be a diversion from #1. I'm not sure how old you are, but let me say that having a relationship with someone who has children is VERY difficult. Not impossible, but hard. So I would be wary of that as well.

Stay with, or go for the one with the most money and no kids. :)

I swear, every one of my single buddies date NURSES and don't seem to mind a bit. ;)

Don't even think of getting involved with someone that is already involved!!!
Bad ju ju here.
Particularly if you are already involved.

This is Texas, and people carry guns.
If girl 2 has been in a relationship for anywhere near 10 years here, She is to be considered married.

My first wife decided to get involved with another woman's husband, and I am not shy to let you know this did not turn out well----Short term or long term.

Phoenix PD got involved more than once.
And a later episode found my car inside some moronic skirt chaser's front room.
(More cops---but I felt better)

She later married a guy that took her for everything she owned (car, house, bank account) and then she suffered a mental breakdown.
(I am grateful that she is doing better now)

I developed such a bad taste for women, I did not even bother to date for about 13 years. (I am much better now)

Not worth the trouble this may cause down the line.

I am in a relationship now----been in one for about 9 yrs now----she had 4 kids.
Not the easiest thing, dealing with another's chilren, but all is better now that all of the girls have moved out on their own and only the 13yo boy is left.

(I think I will keep this one----she likes me, and I have no idea why)
JMO

Another "Skirt Chasing" instead of Bench Racing thread! ;) :D

Well it's obvious you don't share the same feelings about girl #1. So you need to let her know where you stand. And girl #2 may be a diversion from #1. I'm not sure how old you are, but let me say that having a relationship with someone who has children is VERY difficult. Not impossible, but hard. So I would be wary of that as well.

I agree..dating a women with children comes with many challenges..I've dated alot of girls with kids in my past as I just love kids..But understand it's a mothers love to care for them children..hince the first time one slaps you in the face and you snatch him up and spank him..be prepared for mom!!! Older kids will test you even more as they feel your replacing DAD..and at some point the dad want's to tell you how he wants his kids raised by you in your home. Child support problems..etc, etc.
Be yourself around the kids they can sense if you like them or not and that your their just cause mom's hot..Trust me stepping into a ready made family can be stressful if your not prepared..You have to learn and be understanding that the childs needs come first and that doesn't mean getting them everything trying to buy their love, but sometimes mom needs a break too...I could go on and on with this subject, Just some thoughts if you haven't thought of them yet..Good Luck!!

I'm going to make one comment, and then I'm not going to mention it again (to you).
If you REALLY like cars, and your relief from the day to day stresses is in the form of working on, or doing things with, cars, car shows, cruise-ins, etc, AND, your mate has little to no interest--------------TRUST ME, it will only get worse!!!!!!!! Especially AFTER marriage.
It is true, opposites may attract-------------------BUT ARE NOT NECESSARILY COMPATABLE! That's the primary thing that many people fail to take into consideration------------NON-COMPATABILITY!
Yes, there have been, and on rare ocassions, may continue to be times when women who don't do car "stuff" will change and enjoy them------------------BUT THAT IS THE EXCEPTION, NOT THE RULE!
So, if you wanna continue to do car stuff, and you want to have a female mate, find one that also likes car stuff.
Oh ya, some added info. MAYBE the person that you're dating today is enthusiastic about your car stuff (at least on the surface). But after marriage, you may regretably discover that was just a front she put on until she could get you in front of the preacher!!! So, how do you determine if her enthusiasm for car stuff is real or just a put-on? Well--------------------------------I ain't got that one figgered out yet! :confused:
Why have I said all of the above? Because I've been down that road with 3 of them--------------------------and if you'll notice, my present (and final) wife has only been to ONE Chevellabration with me!!! :sad:

A woman worth her weight in love, will like what her husband likes. My wife doesn't go to car shows by herself. She goes with me because she knows I LIKE IT. So, if you involve your wife/girlfriend/mistress in your hobby or passion, she more than likely will join you sometimes.

My humble opinion... If things haven't progressed for you with your girl after 2 years and you are crazy about some other girl, maybe it's time to stop leading girl A on and tell her honestly where she stands. If it's not going anywhere for you, then it's not going anywhere.

Also, I would just warn you about chasing what seems to me (based on what little info I have of the situation) an infatuation with girl B. It sounds like she's still in a relationship. It might not even end, and after 10 years, if it does end, you don't want to be some rebound stepping stone that she doesn't really have any long term interest in. You might be kicking yourself in 3 months after she moves on and you gave up the girl of 2 years who wouldn't give up on you.

I think the ideal solution is to forget them both and build the car. :)

Tim.

My humble opinion... If things haven't progressed for you with your girl after 2 years and you are crazy about some other girl, maybe it's time to stop leading girl A on and tell her honestly where she stands. If it's not going anywhere for you, then it's not going anywhere.

Also, I would just warn you about chasing what seems to me (based on what little info I have of the situation) an infatuation with girl B. It sounds like she's still in a relationship. It might not even end, and after 10 years, if it does end, you don't want to be some rebound stepping stone that she doesn't really have any long term interest in. You might be kicking yourself in 3 months after she moves on and you gave up the girl of 2 years who wouldn't give up on you.

I think the ideal solution is to forget them both and build the car. :)

Tim.

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Amen

Now..theres this other girl I work work that I really like. I don't know what it is about her, but I'm crazy for her. The BIG but is, she has two kids, from the same father and the relationship isn't working between them. They've never been married, but have been together for 10 years.

This is basically a wreck looking for a place to happen...

IMO,

Girls with kids can be the best ones to have! Figure these girls have been in a relationship, and they haven't been on the "market". I think if a gril is in her 20's or 30's, attractive, and single, somethings wrong - as they should of been married many times over. Usually, after you get talking to these girls, you find out why they are single...usually their nuts!

A woman worth her weight in love, will like what her husband likes. My wife doesn't go to car shows by herself. She goes with me because she knows I LIKE IT. So, if you involve your wife/girlfriend/mistress in your hobby or passion, she more than likely will join you sometimes.

I agree with this
My wife loves to go for rides in the Chevelle & loves shows and cruises but I doubt she would if it weren't for me.

Well, I've been seeing my girlfriend for almost two years now. After a few months after we started being a 'couple', she moved to San Antonio to finish school. We hardly have time to visit eachother and she strongly wants to continue our relationship. She loves me, but I don't have that feeling for her yet. She's a nurse, no kids, never been married and talks about wanting to marry me. I comment to her sometimes how hard it is having this long distance relationship. We got into a bad discussion when I told her that I want to build a street/strip car. She threw the typical comments at me. Now..theres this other girl I work work that I really like. I don't know what it is about her, but I'm crazy for her. The BIG but is, she has two kids, from the same father and the relationship isn't working between them. They've never been married, but have been together for 10 years.:o

*sigh* Ok, I feel better getting this off my chest. Everyone have a good day.:)


What size Big Block are you putting in the street/strip car???



Rocky

IMO,

Girls with kids can be the best ones to have! Figure these girls have been in a relationship, and they haven't been on the "market". I think if a gril is in her 20's or 30's, attractive, and single, somethings wrong - as they should of been married many times over. Usually, after you get talking to these girls, you find out why they are single...usually their nuts!


IMO, if your relationship with Girl A continues to worsen, move on and forget Girl B, you don't need the extra "baggage," especially when it's not yours. There is plenty of other 'tail' out there waiting for you.


Respectfully,
John R.

I once asked my wife if she could do anything she ever wanted to do in her whole life what would it be? Her answer was "YOU" What more could I say!:thumbsup:

Wow, I didn't think I'd get this many responses. lol. I'm kinda swamped at work right now, but will be back to read during lunch. :D

Don't get involved with girl #2. Plain and simple.

Your girlfriend: If you're not feeling the relationship is headed where you want it and she doesn't like your hobbies, get out of the relationship. Too many women out there that will be a better match than to "settle" with one that isn't working for you.

Forget them both, build the car and go from there.

What size Big Block are you putting in the street/strip car???

Rocky



Roflmaol:)

spoken like a true motor head!

my input:

1. chicks come and go. (just hope one doesn't leave with your car!)

2. your doing your GF a serious dis-respect staying with her after 2 years when she loves you and you don't know how you feel about her. get off the fence.

3. see 2 above, work and relationships don't work. finish what you start.

Two things struck me:
1. if after 2 years you aren't in love with A, you probably won't, ever.
2. if you aren't married, I don't see where its her place to tell you not to get that car.
3. Girl B - fuggedaboudit!

Let's just say I have lots of experience watching train wrecks because of my brother, and I have been right 100% of the time.

Plain and simple. You will always want the things you can't have. My wife has never wanted anything to do with our chevelles or my passion for them; But she has NEVER told me I can't do/buy what is necessary to rebuild update/upkeep them etc. She will always go for a cruise if asked, and has even been to Chevellabration with me but that's where her interest ends. Nothing wrong with kids, but your current girl probably ragged on you about the car stuff because you changed the subject to cars in the middle of her discussing serious relationship plans with you. She obviously knew you were into cars when you started dating, and here you are 2 years later. What does that tell you? Nobody can decide what you're going to do except you, but I'd avoid the work chick relationship like the plague just because of her current relationship situation friend. I think I'd let girl #1 know if you're no longer interested, and let her move on. The need for healthcare someday may come back and bite you someplace undesirable if you catch my drift. Good luck

A woman worth her weight in love, will like what her husband likes. My wife doesn't go to car shows by herself. She goes with me because she knows I LIKE IT. So, if you involve your wife/girlfriend/mistress in your hobby or passion, she more than likely will join you sometimes.

Thats the boat im in. Girlfriend isnt necessarily into cars but I am and she attends car shows with me because I like it and she likes spending time with me.

I have dated women with children before and I dont have any childeren personally. That was one of the worst relationships I ever had. It wasnt because of the child, he was less then a year old, cute little todler. But women with children are in a complete different frame of mind then ones that do not. And unless your a single parent yourself its a conflict of intrest even if it may not seem as such. On some small minute level its there. Because of that, it doesnt always work. At least from the expierences I have had and single friends that have tried to date a single parent. It does work though, my older brother is was a single parent and met a woman that didnt have any kids and they have been married for 10 plus years. My brothers son was well into his teens by that time though so that may or may not have had something to do with.

I have also known single parents that have dated single parents and the relationship has worked out great. I really didnt want that and luckily met a wonderfull woman 2 years ago that was looking for exactly that also. Someone that didnt have any kids.

Forget them both, build the car and go from there.

That sort of sums it up for me. It soudns like you're at a point where, though you don't have strong feelings for GF1, you still think you have to have a girlifriend in your life to be complete. Therefore, GF2.

You need a timeout from dating for a while.

IMO,

Girls with kids can be the best ones to have! Figure these girls have been in a relationship, and they haven't been on the "market". I think if a gril is in her 20's or 30's, attractive, and single, somethings wrong - as they should of been married many times over. Usually, after you get talking to these girls, you find out why they are single...usually their nuts!

Not so sure about that Vince. While it may be true that the really available ones are nuts, you have to watch the ones in relationships too. If they are in a bad relationship they may just be looking for anyone that can offer then some escape. Funny things can go through a person's head, financial problems, child rearing problems, etc. can cause someone to end up looking for that escape.

Forget about the Womam with the Kids, that is really someone else's deal, You don't need none o' that.:noway:After You decide to try to play Daddy, there won't be any leftover's for the car.

TRUST Me on this one.:yes:

For every HOT female, there is a male somewhere who is tired of putting up with her crap

I say "tooda curb wit em BOTH", find Girl C who is a smokin hot nympho which happens to also own a liquor store!!! :yes: :hurray: :beers:

:D Naw in all seriousness all I am able to say about this is, "I LOVE MY WIFE!!!" She's one in a million and after 15 years of marriage, 3 kids and putting up with each others families we both STILL can't keep our hands off of each other and she lets me keep the garage/toybox JAMMED FULL. (However I have the fanciest jeweler in Memphis on speed dial. :() She was raised by a father who loves the outdoors and mechanical toys just as much as I do so she's cool with all that.

ALL wimmunz is nuttier than squirrels turds, you just gotta decide how much "nutty turdness" you can tolerate!!! :confused:
RA

ps
As for a man whose never been married and doesn't have kids of his own, I don't think he can EVER be prepared for someone elses kids and having all that baggage brought suddenly into his life. Even if you THINK you are ready, you have NO clue what you are about to get into!!! I'm a PROUD father of 3 (8 and 13 year old sons and a 10 yr old daughter). Leave the "cheatin parents" too the "cheatin parents", as a single guy you aren't ready for that game. It's also a good way to get VERY DEAD! NO split tail is worth that, to many prettier and "singler" out there runnin around.

ps
As for a man whose never been married and doesn't have kids of his own, I don't think he can EVER be prepared for someone elses kids and having all that baggage brought suddenly into his life. Even if you THINK you are ready, you have NO clue what you are about to get into!!! I'm a PROUD father of 3 (8 and 13 year old sons and a 10 yr old daughter). Leave the "cheatin parents" too the "cheatin parents", as a single guy you aren't ready for that game. It's also a good way to get VERY DEAD! NO split tail is worth that, to many prettier and "singler" out there runnin around.

Rubbish! I'm 33, no kids, never been married but I've had two girlfriends who both had a son, one 4 and one 7 and even though it's hard work and more of a challenge to get to know each other it's great fun! Well, I'm speaking as someone who loves children though, if you don't I'm sure it's not at all. I'm just trying to say it's probably not for everyone but to say "stay away" is not fair either.

Women with kids are double the fun :hurray:

P.S. You should still stay away from women B but because of her partner, not the kids!

Never ever get involed with someone at work. You'll see too much of her. You'll want time with her at work. She might want to take a break or lunch with her friends. And you'll feel bad. That she isn't taking it with you. If a guy says hi to her. You'll think he got an eye on her. NOPE it not worth it. I worked at a place for over 30 yrs. I've seen it happen a 100 times. It only last a short while. Remember the grass always looks greener on the otherside. When things ar not going your way.

Jeez, so you've been with #1 long enough to get yourself bored, and now you get goggle eyed over a triple problem #2. No one can ever really explain "attraction", but man o man that is plain stupid. They write country songs about this kind of stuff. I hope that #2 is really smoking hot and quick witted - otherwise I would worry that your fantasy response to girlfriend boredom is complete loserville. Do you really dream about stepping into the middle of a rotten two kid 10 year no marriage deal and coming out alive? Good luck with that.

Thomas

IMO,

Girls with kids can be the best ones to have! Figure these girls have been in a relationship, and they haven't been on the "market". I think if a gril is in her 20's or 30's, attractive, and single, somethings wrong - as they should of been married many times over. Usually, after you get talking to these girls, you find out why they are single...usually their nuts!

ROTFLMAO

i dunno if you meant to use their as opposed to they're, but both are pretty good reason to stay away hahaha.l:)



on a serious note, is the lack of love feeling b/c of you and/or the girl or b/c of the distance? would it be different if she wasn't away at school? it may make sense to call it quits but if she's coming home from school soon things could be different. if you think thats the case don't call it quits just yet. and stay away from chick #2. good luck dude.

I just remembered the term from years ago "emotional tampon", that's what you are to the girl at work. She's going nowhere, seen it a million times and lived it once.

I'm with the rest here sounds like your relationship with #1 is winding down and #2 is going to get messy. I would be honest with #1 and tell her there might be some deal breaker issues. I would not even pursue #2, that is a heart break at minimum or ass kicking or worse waiting to happen.

If you decide to stay with #1 there is a book "The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions To Ask Before You Say "I Do" by Susan Priver I would recommend you both start working on. It tackles all of the essential issues that will come up in marriage in a workbook style. If both parties honestly do the work you will know if it is going to work or if there are deal breakers. I have given copies to many people and in a couple of cases they did not get married, they found deal breakers. My wife and I were lucky because at the time I got married the Army required 12 sessions of mandatory couples counseling that touched on many of the same issues. Better to get the issues out front than in front of a divorce judge with a couple of kids involved.

Good luck, Patrick

OK .... I've been in this spot before. It's human nature to want what you can't have and girl #2 is this. Number 2 probably took your attention and that's why you don't care for #1 as much, but let me tell ya if you find a woman who will LOVE you for you hold on to her. Once you get #2 she will be the girl of your dreams for a while because mr. dick head is not there and she's in lala land till she misses the bad boy syndrome that girls like and find herself missing him when he says i'll do better. Oh ... and you will never trust a chick with kids if the father is halfway responsible cuz he's gonna want to see them kids and her and him will have crap to talk about and you wont be invited and you GONNA get jealous and insecure. Trust me! Ask me how I know. Tried it several times.

Remember the grass always looks greener on the otherside.

If the grass looks greener on the other side....its probably over the septic tank.

If the grass looks greener on the other side....its probably over the septic tank.


ROTFLMAO I GOTTA USE THAT:D:yes:

think girl 1 has a problem with you wanting to build a car,

girl 2 will have your mony tied up,


go find a girl three if you need to but the first sounds nice to me!

This thread is useless without PICS !!!!!!! Show us some pics of the 2 chicks and we will give an educated opinion.

This thread is useless without PICS !!!!!!! Show us some pics of the 2 chicks and we will give an educated opinion.Scott will give the educated opinion, I'll just use my elevator eyes.:D

Women with kids are double the fun :hurray:


Only if mom is 45 and her daughter is 25... :thumbsup:

See the one you are really happy with. Just remember at some time your going to have to get in the other guys face.