Now I'm a very honest person. However, it seems like some people you work with like to twist your answers. You will be asked a question and the next thing you know it is changed to something to fit their agenda. Some people call this making conversation.

How do yall handle this? This has become very upsetting to me.

Now I'm a very honest person. However, it seems like some people you work with like to twist your answers. You will be asked a question and the next thing you know it is changed to something to fit their agenda. Some people call this making conversation.

How do yall handle this? This has become very upsetting to me.

Usually when someone asks me a question at work, my first response is 'why do you want to know?' :)

My problem is the people I work with seem wholly unable to comprehend any large conceptual idea. Their eyes glaze over and they immediately start picking at little details, before you even get the whole concept outlined. Conceptual thinking is a skill, and unfortunately it is one that few people possess, it appears.

I love it when people (my boss) will ask a question, you start talking about it, then he immediately talks right over you (while you haven't even finished your sentence or point), often changing the subject.

I like to test people like that sometimes, to see if they are listening; it takes a subtle approach, but even that goes over their head.

What I can't stand is when people do that sort of thing (like our dingbat secretary) to try and have you do THEIR (simple) work.

Aaaah, the dungeon.

Avoid talking to people like me. I'm never a loss for words and have a few extra for your sentences. If you stumble I"m always there to help.:D

A lot of times people ask questions, not to hear your opinion, but just in hopes that you'll confirm or praise their idea....

Others just love to hear themselves talk....

A lot of times people ask questions, not to hear your opinion, but just in hopes that you'll confirm or praise their idea....

Others just love to hear themselves talk....

Yep, and many times you'll find those people in management positions, surrounded by yes-men. I hate that, and I usually speak my mind regardless of who I'm talking to. Sometimes it helps, sometimes I get in trouble for it, but I just can't do it any other way. And many times, I get the great pleasure of saying: "I told you so". :D

A lot of times people ask questions, not to hear your opinion, but just in hopes that you'll confirm or praise their idea....

Others just love to hear themselves talk....

That's exactly right. My bosses don't ask my opinion anymore, because they know I will give it to them, and if they try to interrupt while I'm giving it, I will stop and say "do you want my opinion or not? If you don't then stop wasting my time because I have work to do. If you do then BE QUIET while I give it to you, because I don't have much patience for people who ask a question and then don't wait for the answer".

That's put the kai-bosh on that little problem :)

I've got a guy at one of the companies I do work for that calls me on the phone and asks me questions to pass of the answers as his own. The funny thing is that he knows almost nothing about his job otherwise...Maybe I should start feeding him so rediculously wrong answers just to see what happens :)

the problem is, people hear what they want. you could stand there and yell, blah, blah, blah, till the cows come home, and they pass on something that wasn't even said.

i've tried several approaches unfortunately "e.t.a." translates into what ever time suits them, "i'll have to look into it", means to call me every five minutes till you get the answer you want....and the ever popular "you said", or "you told me". i recently had somebody approach me, to tell me that i was wrong that a salesmanager had been demoted, even if i had that information, i wouldn't pass it along. i don't like gossip, it ruins morale, and is unethical, kills friendships, and is just plain rude.

best thing to do, is when approached, just spit it out, "i didn't say that", sooner or later, people will catch on to this guy, and you'll all be on the same page, of course everybody but this guy.....

Yep, and many times you'll find those people in management positions, surrounded by yes-men. I hate that, and I usually speak my mind regardless of who I'm talking to. Sometimes it helps, sometimes I get in trouble for it, but I just can't do it any other way. And many times, I get the great pleasure of saying: "I told you so". :D

:yes: That's the way to do it :thumbsup:

You still having the same problem Aaron? Man that is bad news. Sorry to hear it's still going on. :(

Once a year we take the boss to Atlantic City, go to the roulette table and ask "Red or Black?"

Whatever he answers, we all put our money on the other one. Winners every time.

It's strange. He's ALWAYS wrong. He's also one that calls different people til he gets the answer he wants. If he gets it, that is the only one he remembers. We deal with it by ignoring him and doing what we know needs to get done anyways. Then he looks like the hero, and we are all satisfied knowing who did the real work, and how it got done.

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the problem is, people hear what they want. you could stand there and yell, blah, blah, blah, till the cows come home, and they pass on something that wasn't even said.

It is called having selective hearing! :D

You know, like over on, ah, never mind!;)

Yeah, we get panic stricken customers asking when it will be fixed. I say I won't know til its fixed. After a few rounds of that I say maybe after x hours. If its not done in x hours, they say, but you promised... Right.

What I hate is when a co worker asks your opinion or how to do something and then goes and asks someone else right after I either explained to him what to do or went over and tried to help him. Not only does it waste my time but also pisses me off. If you were just going to ask someone else anyway, just pass me buy and go ask someone else. i`m glad I don`t have to deal with that at the new shop.

What I hate is when a co worker asks your opinion or how to do something and then goes and asks someone else right after I either explained to him what to do or went over and tried to help him.

Or goes to the boss and passes it off as his own idea. :rolleyes:

Yeah, we get panic stricken customers asking when it will be fixed. I say I won't know til its fixed. After a few rounds of that I say maybe after x hours. If its not done in x hours, they say, but you promised... Right.

I worked in a factory for ten years as an electrician. I would get asked by management / supervisors etc when I would be finished, with the connection job, machine relocation, what ever I was on. first time I would say soon I 'll let you know. All the time knowing their running to someone else, kissing a$$. the second time they got. Well it's going to be 15 minutes more now because you come and stopped me again. And now I am going to have to go the break room, sit down, drink a soda and calm down, before I can finish what I am doing. this one production manager asked why. I looked at him and said this is a $750,000 (1980s dollars) CNC machining center if I hook up something wrong it could cost the company more money than your worth to just to repair a mistake that you caused by being soooooo impatient with my work. Now Go tell your boss what I said, and don't change anything.
I hated breaking in new managers, etc who have the "I" problem. :mad:
you know! I did this or I found out this or I figured it would take this and their draging their feet :mad:
Management learned what I was all about. The company purchased a machine for just over $1,200,000. The division VP came out to the floor where we were setting the machine up. Called me to the side and handed me two cokes from his coat pocket. looked at me and said "just incase you need a break". "Because this mother cost us a lot of money and I need you at your best". I looked back at him laughed, shook his hand, and thanked him as he left.:)