OK my daughter isn't 100% what one would call "normal" but she's a girl, and she's 9, so I think whichever of you who have daughters can answer my question :)

She seems to have TONS more dirty clothes than her brothers do. My wife thinks that this is because she is just tossing clean ones back into the hamper instead of putting htem away, but I think she's trying things on and deciding she wants to wear something else THEN throwing them into the hamper.

What do you folks who have been here before think?

K

Let her start doing her own laundry... ;)

Or you can limit her clothes by picking 7 outfit for her to wear... That is what my wife did with the oldest...

My daughter will do the same thing. She will change her clothes three or four times a day. Plus she will try something on, Decide she doesn't like it and through it in the dirty clothes.
If I see something in the dirty pile that I know she did not wear, I will fold it and put it back in her drawer.

LOL :D.

Ok, well I had my 11yr old daughter read this and give her opinion. She said 'I don't know'. So I asked her why SHE has more dirty clothes
than her brothers (4). ;) (They do they're own laundry, too)

Her answer was she tries on clothes in the morning, changes when she gets home from school, and maybe changes again in the evening.

Also, her mom and I have caught her putting clean clothes in the dirty clothes basket because she wanted to be
done faster to go play.:yes:

Sooo, your probably both right! And they're both normal.

Oh, haha, my daughter hasn't put clean clothes in the dirty clothes basket since she turned 10 because
as she puts it, 'because I'm more mature now". :thumbsup:

I have two daughters ages 14 & 18 and I do a lot of laundry. Girls do tend to change their clothes several times a day for some reason. I have also noticed when they try them on to decide what they are going to wear they would rather just toss them in the dirty clothes hamper than fold them and put them away. That would be too much trouble.:rolleyes:

Slight confession here.....it is more likely to see clean clothes scattered throughout my room and closet than it is to have it folded and put away. This is true for just about every girl I know....However, i dunno about the throwing it in the dirty hamper (maybe it gets mixed up?), or it is just a way to get your room cleaned quicker, haha. But...having her do her own laundry may aid the situation.

-Rosie

My 17 yo does exactly that. Tries on a bunch of stuff, and what She doesn't like hits the floor. Then I see it come through the Laundry, knowing it's clean. I makje Her go pick it out, just a waste of time and money to wash it.

Whatever the cause -- I can promise you it won't get any better as she gets older. Just wait until she's in college and comes home to visit over Christmas. I asked my daughter if she ever does any laundry at school. :confused: Just cherish the time you have with her now, and yes, she IS normal.

Dave

ok, i have 2 girls...young ones...6 and 2.5...

The six year old is known to do this kind of thing already, although I cannot say that she has been dumping clean stuff in the hamper yet (so thanks for the warning!!).

On school days she is pretty good, maybe some arguing over what to wear, resulting in clothes left on the floor which typically get dealt with that evening since we are always in a rush to be on time.

On weekends, I have seen her jump into and out of 3-4 outfits based on her mood. its basically like a big dress up game to her. The little one is obviously watching all of this and taking it in, so i dont expect any relief.

i think they get it all from "her"....

no matter what, they are loved dearly although they may think we speak too loudly on certain days.

Let her start doing her own laundry... ;)


ROFFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!:D:D...BRILLIANCE i tell you :p

My nine year old girl used to change her clothes 3 or 4 times a day, either Mom talked to her or she passed through the phase. Slight case of clothing ADD I guess.

Well my daughter is a little older (19) and is away at college right now but even to this day she never put clean clothes in the hamper, as far as that goes she didn't put dirty ones in there either. they just pile up on the floor of her room. I don't know how she could tell which ones were clean and which ones were dirty. I guess most girls are that way when it comes to clothes. On another note the whole time I was reading these posts I was thinking why wife has to sometimes suggest to me that I have reached my limit on repetative wearings of the same article of clothing. If I have a pair of sweats or a tee shirt that I might wear in the evening only and I'm just sitting around (not creating body stink) I might wear the same thing 3 times give or take before it hits the dirty clothes. I'm sure I'm not alone here. I guess that is a guy thing and besides in recycling the same article of clothing men are helping to save the planet.:thumbsup:

I think my daughter does the 3 or 4 outfits a day thing. But when I was a kid, if my mom didnt grab my dirty clothes, I could get by with 2 or 3 outfits a week. jim

Normal Normal ......have 2 daughters .......oldest exactly the same those dirty clothes are pbly clean ones ......as above have said in my case my wife always blames me "she takes after you " BUT there is a payback when they get married and have their own house ........then they start complaining how much work laundry is luv it :) my other alot more neat but of the two the messy one is the one that will help anyone who needs it great person so it all works out .......BTW if you think daughters are ever off the payroll once they leave home forget it they have a way of getting stuff .......Dad can you help us build a deck .....oh BTW pick up the lumber we will pay for it ........wife always tells them OH forget it !!!!!!!! how the heck can I build cars with this **** going on ...........boys dont even ask they know what I would tell them ....... would not be with out kids though

hell, my wife does that.

I was a single father who raised 2 girls alone from the ages of 3 and 1. Dirty laundry, messy rooms, talking on the phone constantly. Seems like their place in life is to drive you crazy. LOVE this time and cherish it, because like mine, when they are grown and gone from home you will miss it. What I would give to wash a basket of clean clothes!

Wow, this thread REALLY makes me not want to have kids....I have issues with other people's laziness as it is:D I totally understand the men's ability to wear the same outfit multiple times, and yes I also see it as recycling, as long as it's doesn't stink like a$$. I think some of us realize more just how much this life costs, and what is more important to us.

Keith: Now thats funny. I have two daughters. And I remember them drag a bed sheet from upstairs down to the wash room. I said what is all that ? They said dirty clothes. Mind you they were mid teens 14 & 15 about. I said ohhh no!! Lets take a look. Then Mom came into the room. Wanted to know whats going on. Told her. then she started in to sort the clothes. Over 1/2 of them were clean. They just didn't want to go thru and pick up the clean ones. So drag them downstairs & let mom do it. Well that was the last time. That they tried that stunt. But their room was alway a mess. the two boys rooms were like the Hilton compared to theirs!! YES girls are worst then boys in that respect!!:yes:

MAybe it's the boys fault. They're probably wearing the same out fit over and over. Think when I was a kid I wore the same favorite pants and shirt over and over until it was rags.

On a side note, when my girls are grown up and moved out of the house, first thing I'm going to do when I visit them is jump in their bed and eat crakers. :hurray:

hell, my wife does that.

I have no daughters............but a buddy of mine has 3 and a wife that ALL do the same thing, not to mention NONE of them will do ANY laundry.

Popular topic of conversation and I ain't naming no names :D

MAybe it's the boys fault. They're probably wearing the same out fit over and over. Think when I was a kid I wore the same favorite pants and shirt over and over until it was rags.

On a side note, when my girls are grown up and moved out of the house, first thing I'm going to do when I visit them is jump in their bed and eat crakers. :hurray:

great idea!! so true!!:yes:

This obviously has become a secret offensive weapon in driving men crazy, dating how many years back? It would seem all women do it, and no men do it. Dont mistake this war game tactic as lazyness :P

My boys do it too. Teaching her to wash, fold and PUT AWAY her own laundry should solve the problem. I did the same thing when I was a kid (although I don't think I had as many clothes as kids do today.) It was just easier to put it into the hamper than to have to re-fold it and put it away. Once I had to fold it and put it away anyway, I discovered it made less laundry if I kept the clean clothes out.

Also, I make my kids pull all of their socks straight, make sure there are no socks, underwear or t-shirts still inside other clothes and that everything is right-side-out before it goes into their hampers.

Good Luck!

OK my daughter isn't 100% what one would call "normal" but she's a girl, and she's 9, so I think whichever of you who have daughters can answer my question :)

She seems to have TONS more dirty clothes than her brothers do. My wife thinks that this is because she is just tossing clean ones back into the hamper instead of putting htem away, but I think she's trying things on and deciding she wants to wear something else THEN throwing them into the hamper.

What do you folks who have been here before think?

K

you, nailed it..and i agree with the doing her own laundry. once she realizes the work involved, her laundy load will dissapate accordingly...

Thanks for the support. I do try to love every moment of it. For instance, tonight when I picked her up from cheerleading, I got to watch them practice for about 10 minutes before time to go. Very enjoyable. I kept imagining what it would be like not too far in the future when she is like the older girls. THere are a couple of them that are the same body type and have a similar look to them as I imagine she will look when she is 15 or 16. We had a nice conversation on the way home, just being silly.

There are a couple of laundry things I don't do, like make them pull all the socks right side out, shirts right side out, etc. but I think I'll start that next laundry day. SOme of it is pretty tough, and I wish that I would have been able to get these kids a few years ago instead of their "mother" sending them back to their "father" where all sorts of bad crap happened. I'm just trying to teach them what a normal life is supposed to be like. There is an awful lot to do, and when I am doing other things, lots of times I forget to double check. These kids are just waiting for that.

I almost started to go into the boys and their laundry oddnesses, but some of it you folks just don't want to know, and the rest should be in its own thread. :)

Thanks again for the reminder that even with all of the labels, we are a pretty normal family.

K

another vote for making her do her own laundry, and you have to choose the day and tell her if it doesn't get done on her day, she has to wait another week to do the laundry. My wife made our sons do their own laundry when they were about ten or so, took them into the laundry room and showed the how much detergent to use, fabric softener and bleach on the white clothes. Showed them how to iron too. worked for us.

5 and 7, and both have started doing it. Put a big cheapo laundry basket in thier room(s). Tell them anything they put in the laundry that looks clean will not be washed and will be put back in there. Eventually they will either go through that bin, wash thier own, or sabotage the pile. Time to teach laundry.

I grew up with 5 sisters and this was a problem my folks had to deal with. Now with a daughter of my own, I thought the laundry volume would not be a problem since she (now 15 and in 10th grade) and her brother (8th grade) both attend Catholic schools and wear uniforms. Not so! I still find folded clothes in their hampers, 10 pairs of socks over the course of 2 days, etc., etc.
Sure it upsets me sometimes, but I try to remember that their time living in our house is limited. And that I should enjoy this time. Like the rest of us, they will figure things out for themselves in due time. And hopefully come to the realization that mom and dad are not the stupidest individuals on the face of the earth. I discovered that for myself at about 28.

My girls are 3 and 5 and do the same thing...

Even though they have a lot of "princess" outfits (that they also wear), they already like to wear different outfits alot... And sometimes even if they didn't wear something, because its no longer folded, they will throw it in with the dirty clothes...

And if anything spills on them, they have to change immediately... I have seen them both spill a little water at dinner, get up and change, only to spill again a few minutes later...


Thankfully Mom does about 95% of their laundry... So she talks to them about it...

Wow. That is just madness. I grab something in the morning and thats what I'm wearing all day for the most part. Unless I go out or somethin, then I gotta be all cleaned up and fresh. :p

But at the most I change clothes once a day except for in the morning.

Be grateful. My step son will go away to camp for a week with four pair of shorts, four t shirts, two swim trunks and one pair of underwear. the underwear may or may not get used during the week and if it does it may get used all 7 days :confused:

the underwear may or may not get used during the week and if it does it may get used all 7 days :confused:

Eeeewwwww!:p

Went through reading more responses in this thread, and Merlin......I have the opposite reply to your comment about parents. You said that kids will realize their parents aren't the stupidest people.....well, in my case, it's the other way around, I found out my parents aren't the smartest people in the world, except I realized that at about 14 years old, and it's still true to this day. It never ceases to amaze me just how inefficient they can be as well as annoying in small tasks. I strive to be efficient, correct in how I say things and spell, as well as getting things done and in an organized manner, yet no matter how hard I try people are always screwing up my system. Even at work. It's like people can't realize their own existence is taxing on other people! Maybe the kids should get a lesson on how not to waste other people's time doing laundry!!!!!!

Father of a 15 yo here.... yup - it's a girl thing.

If the clothes touch the body (even over other clothes) they are instantly "dirty".... They never left the room or even touched skin, but they are now dirty... and usually left in a heap on the floor.

We've kind-of nixed this around here by instituting a simple rule. "If it's not down the chute, it doesn't get washed.... I'm not going to go look for laundry." After about 3 - 4 days there was nothing "clean" left in the drawers or hangers, and she had to root through the piles. She made her own conclusions that unless it's been worn all day, or got something spilled on it, or it was underwear that it wasn't necessarily "dirty".

I've got a bigger problem with this one - SHOES! This kid has the Imelda Marcos "starter set" going, and is on her way to becoming a world contender. Now she does buy them herself - using babysitting & dog-walking money - but having an individual pair of shoes "that go with" every item of clothing is nuts.

Well, today will be the first day of "Do your own laundry" :D

I'll let you know how it goes.

K

Father of a 15 yo here.... yup - it's a girl thing.

If the clothes touch the body (even over other clothes) they are instantly "dirty".... They never left the room or even touched skin, but they are now dirty... and usually left in a heap on the floor.

We've kind-of nixed this around here by instituting a simple rule. "If it's not down the chute, it doesn't get washed.... I'm not going to go look for laundry." After about 3 - 4 days there was nothing "clean" left in the drawers or hangers, and she had to root through the piles. She made her own conclusions that unless it's been worn all day, or got something spilled on it, or it was underwear that it wasn't necessarily "dirty".

I've got a bigger problem with this one - SHOES! This kid has the Imelda Marcos "starter set" going, and is on her way to becoming a world contender. Now she does buy them herself - using babysitting & dog-walking money - but having an individual pair of shoes "that go with" every item of clothing is nuts.

I've often wondered about having all of these shoes and accessories that women get to match, because if they're doing it to look good for men, they're wasting their time. Guys don't notice this stuff and really don't care what a woman wears. Women must have all of these clothes and shoes to impress other women, I guess.

Hey Keith, rather than just making them do the laundry, get them to help you do it. Spend a bit of time together folding the clothes and it will not come off as some kind of punishment. If you are a bit, shall we say, clumsy, folding them they will probably show you how to do it the way they like and gradually start taking over. I like that approach better than "do it".

just a suggestion from an 'ol dad.

Al

hell, my wife does that.


:DSame here!

Hey Keith, rather than just making them do the laundry, get them to help you do it. Spend a bit of time together folding the clothes and it will not come off as some kind of punishment. If you are a bit, shall we say, clumsy, folding them they will probably show you how to do it the way they like and gradually start taking over. I like that approach better than "do it".

just a suggestion from an 'ol dad.

Al

Nice one Al. My wife decided that, even though some of you folks suggested it, she is too small to do her own laundry. Silly things like "she can't reach the bottom of the washer" and "do you remember that episode of The Brady Bunch?" came into play. Anyways, the one boy we have this weekend (the other is at his dad's) did his. Looks like he survived it. She will be helping fold. I am picky about folding, though. It usually takes me about 3 minutes to fold a load of shirts and pants. They all fit in the drawers, and they don't come out all wrinkly :P I didn't have much time today to do any teaching (because I am stupid and broke part of the floor and had to fix it) so looks like tomorrow after cheerleading we'll be doing some room organization and folding.

K

Hey Keith, rather than just making them do the laundry, get them to help you do it. Spend a bit of time together folding the clothes and it will not come off as some kind of punishment. If you are a bit, shall we say, clumsy, folding them they will probably show you how to do it the way they like and gradually start taking over. I like that approach better than "do it".

just a suggestion from an 'ol dad.

Al

Once my daughter got to a certain age, she wouldn't allow me to do her laundry anymore. I didn't do it right, so she does it now. She is kind of an OCD perfectionist clean freak though. My boys on the other hand are terrible.

Our daughter had more laundry a week than the other for of us put together! My wife tried to get her to stop changing so much or do her own laundry! She said she didn't have time! I fixed that! I told her I was going to make her brothers do her wash as punishment for whatever they got in trouble for. She said "so what"! I said 'I'll tell you what, they will do it and keep in mind their friends are over here all the time"! She started doing her own washing! Guess she didn'r want all the little boys seeing her undies!:D